I know Ray J as “Brandy’s little brother” or “that guy who was in Kim Kardashian’s sex tape.” This week, he came out with his new song “I Hit it First,” which I would like to retitle “Just Wanted to Remind Everyone in the Most Misogynistic Way Possible that I Had Sex with Kim Kardashian Six Years Ago.”
Although he never says Kim’s name, Ray J makes reference after reference to her to remind you who he’s talking about (despite the fact that he is now oddly denying that it’s about Kim and saying “It’s about a concept”). The cover is a mash up of a paparazzi picture of Kim at the beach and her current boyfriend Kanye West’s My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy pixelated album art. Then Ray J hits the listener over the head again and again with lyrics like “She might move onto rappers and ballplayers but we all know I hit it first,” “I had her head going north and her ass going south but now baby chose to go West” and “We’ll make another movie.”
Honestly, the whole thing makes him sound pretty desperate to be associated with a reality TV celebrity. While I interpret this as sad and pathetic, Ray J seems to be quite pleased with himself. Half of the lyrics are dedicated to how whenever he goes to the club women (“boppers”) are all over him “and I don’t even put in work,” how he is the best at sex (“I know that I hit it the best,” “I gave her that really bomb sex”) and how whenever he goes out he always leaves with “something.” And by “something,” he means a woman if he wasn’t clear enough before that he thinks women are playthings.
These are all typical (and offensive) topics for male artists these days. There are a couple of things in “I Hit it First” that made me particularly uncomfortable.
1. Explicitly calling out real women: No one wants to think that as you are pregnant and in a happy relationship, some guy you had sex with six years ago is publicly making salacious comments about you. It’s creepy and such a violation to think that (even if you’re a reality tv star) your body and sexuality can be called out at any moment.
2. The notion that Ray J somehow “owns” Kim Kardashian: Ray J credits himself with Kim’s success (“I put her on”) and incessantly talks about her coming back to him. Worst of all are the lyrics: “No matter where she goes or who she knows, she still belongs in my bed.” Apparently, once a woman has sex with Ray J she is on call for him for the rest of her life.
3. The Bobby Brackins verse (no, I’ve never heard of him): He starts out with “I give her no dough, but I gave her 10 to leave,” because apparently he is so popular with women that he has to pay them to get some time alone. He then raps, “I bet I hit first unless you took that girl’s virginity” to indicate that he assumes that he is the first to have sex with a girl unless he has evidence to the contrary. He also declares that he “love[s] anything with ass that walk by.” I don’t think he has ever met Kim but he still says, “Yeah you love her, yeah you hug her and you kiss her, she dome me up” because if a woman is in a committed relationship, she is probably still having oral sex with someone else. He reiterates that at the end of his rap with: “And I still hit it while you lonely and you miss her.” And because calling out one woman in the song wouldn’t be enough, he says he “Be knockin sisters” with Tia and Tamera Mowry (two twins that are not only in the entertainment industry, but also both married with children).
After releasing the song, Ray J admitted that his older sister is pretty upset about it. I wonder why.